So this question has been asked really an interesting question here right.
No.
When I when I answer this I might be creating two camps right.
I do hope that at this stage of all come to be friends have a we were all friends here.
You know that that i'm so the proof of life and people the question have been asked is from Emma Francis
Ramsay and Devon Francis.
I'm sorry I am upset.
No idea whether you are male or female.
Francis are you my lost brother or sister mother or from another brother or sister from another Mr.
I have no idea.
It is actually a slightly different spelling of the surname.
Francis asks Kane.
I have just taken my first ever client two weeks ago thanks to the encouragement they have given me
throughout this course.
Fantastic.
Glad to hear that I'm impacting the world in a positive way.
I have struggled to identify any steps my client has taken up until now too actually because it to actually
begin resolving any problems that they have.
What would you do if you were working with a client who wasn't taking any of your guidance or if you
coaching on hand.
Right.
To be honest with you at the last couple of questions.
Do in some way connect to what we're talking about here.
So in our last question had Patricia ask about the seven step coaching framework question before that
we heard few were read ask about the time lapse between the life balance questions and setting goals.
What happens in between were kind of looking for structure.
No.
If I can just focus here right on what I was discussing in our last question we would talk about the
seven step cushion framework.
If the client has come to you and if they're paying you incidentally for your time then that's most
likely going to be because they generally do want to make progress in one or more areas of their life.
No what I would generally say is that within the first few weeks or within the first few sessions at
least I wouldn't.
I wouldn't tend to give my clients much more than just perhaps I need to think about.
I wouldn't be that difficult wouldn't be setting any goals at this stage in terms of action plans or
anything like that.
What I want to do in the first probably three four possibly even five sessions is build up the trust
in the context of the relationship because of the trust the client is going to be more resistant to
any potential challenge.
I offer more than I give.
If they don't take action or any steps towards pursuing their goals at a later stage in their relationship
was articulate I think that made sense as well and fantastic.
So what I'm seeing here is the first four to five sessions and a life coach relationship due to the
nature of this process.
The way to get people through I understand as I've already mentioned I think in the last video or something's
the problems that people think they have aren't actually the main problems.
So we can help people to set goals and then set in place action plans to pursue the goals.
But if their main underlying problem as to why we haven't yet accomplished achieved all the things that
they want to accomplish and achieve in life is because of some so limiting belief that we're not having
them at all.
Really aren't serving them so for the first however many sessions I'm always going to be working around
identity core values.
All right.
Yes we are going to put in place as future forecasts so we're going to have some of them that were working
to towards the end of the course.
But I also want to be managing expectations and helping them to understand that that's all about them
taking the necessary steps.
No the steps are all about taking action which is step two of the seven step life coaching process.
So bear in mind they've already come to you that they've made a decision to change.
But step two is take action.
No because they've come to you for life coach and already taken action.
What the problem seems to be if you are then to find but your client isn't actually doing anything and
they haven't committed anything the props having committed to ongoing action and an idea that I would
like to really share here is that sometimes in life it can be quite intimidating for a client to come
to a life coach.
If you think about it it can.
Sometimes be quite a humbling experience.
I don't know if you've never actually been for Life coaching yourself but if you've ever been for Life
Coaching I remember the first time I thought my goodness what I actually doing here is openly admitting
to a human being that I just don't have it all together.
I don't have all the answers which from a man's eye guy's perspective was very very humbling a very
challenging thing to do right back all those many years ago now or what.
I guess I'm really saying here is that sometimes a client will say go or we might agree on a goal with
outlined there is perhaps just slightly too overwhelming if a client's not taken action or even take
a small baby steps.
It's possibly because of the Gall that they have said although proportions inside of their own mind.
So you know would like to remind you to remind your clients how is it that we eat an elephant.
That's right.
Don't try to fit an elephant into a GOB's all at once do we not.
We don't.
We eat an elephant one bite at a time.
And why would never encourage anyone to do is tackle our long term goal.
In the short term because this is generally what we're talking about here.
If a client is not taking steps they're not working towards any short term goals that are going to lead
them closer towards filling the medium term goals or long term goals.
So what I find to be the most effective approach towards helping clients again even just taken those
baby steps recalling many habits mastery.
And this is where we're just looking to build habits into the context of our everyday lives.
For example it might be the case that we or your clients wants to lose weight have low confidence they
want to get a better career.
And what we would encourage them to do is do job searches and go far more in the views and stuff like
that or what we could do as we could just encourage them to set their alarm and get out of bed.
Half an hour one earlier every single morning so they can go for a walk around the block go for a jog
go to the gym.
Anything just to prepare their mind set for the day to come.
And what we generally find is that when we just make tiny little changes if these law changes become
habits then the little changes can become changes and they don't seem quite as overwhelming as what
tackling huge mammoth's problems can can be so obviously I don't know the context or the situation that
you're referring to here.
But Morgan this makes sense nonetheless.
All I can really encourage you to do is to the best of your ability and use less flexibly.
Right don't use this wretched labour be use this as more of a more of a rough guide.
All right.
Bear in mind there has been times in the past where some clients just want me to results and to be honest
with you.
What I'll never do I would never commit to working to someone else's time frame.
If someone says right I've got this problem I want to have the solved in four weeks.
OK just say sorry Anderson I'm not your coach.
I'm not in a rush job here.
I'm into that.
I mean it for the long haul.
I'm in it for the duration.
All right what.
Never work to anywhere anyone else's time frames.
What how we get around helping people to fulfil their goals.
Take baby steps what swearer or whatever is through marriage and their expectation of what the process
is going to be.
So I would not look in setting action action plans in place and taking huge mammoth steps the beginning
of the relationship.
But by the end of the relationship once we've established what core values are in what's established
a core identity and what their main visions are for the seven many areas of their life and by all accounts
then we can be a little bit more heavy handed and not sin you know the rigidness confessed but I'm talking
as a slightly more challenging and confrontational.
If we see them not taken the actions that they are committed to take and bear in mind that I tell you
the Chris story earlier on in the course I think it it didn't I do remember the Chris story.
There are going to be some people out there who just aren't interested in taking responsibility for
life.
And if someone's not well lying to take the actions that they need to take to get from where they're
at to where they want to be.
There's nothing you can do for them anyway.
A simplistic way as possible so this makes sense.
And yet if any more questions come in I shall look forward to answering them in due course.
This has all made sense for a year and thanks to those fans.
Questions.